I do not keep in mind my desires a lot. Usually I keep in mind the essence and emotions, and any reminiscence of the dream shortly fades once I get up. However, I keep in mind the dream I had three days in the past and it’s nonetheless with me. I dreamed that I advised somebody my actual age, and so they mentioned: “Wow! I thought you were in your 40s! You look great for your age!” I keep in mind being indignant and aggravated once I thought to myself, “Most people think I’m in my 30s!” And then I heard a voice from the ether say: “WTF! You’re over 50! Why do you feel that way about what was said?!” Wow! Talk about some baggage to unpack. I wager Freud would have rather a lot to say about my dream!
Lucky for me, I’ve my inside knowledge to assist me perceive what has been rolling by way of my head over the previous few days.
I typically get the remark that I look youthful than my age. Someone as soon as advised me I sounded youthful too. I suppose I took it as my reality, and that brought about outrage within the dream. However, my lesson was to simply accept ageing with grace and settle for me utterly.
I believed I had accepted every part about myself as it’s. But it is just like the universe mentioning that there are nonetheless components of me that I’m not absolutely embracing. This time it is about my fears of getting older.
I discovered myself having fears round ageing that I did not have ten years in the past, like what occurs if I lose my day job? The considered competing for workplace with the youthful era is terrifying. I additionally observed that my physique would not bounce again from damage prefer it did once I was youthful. And overlook staying up all evening at a celebration; It would in all probability take me three days to get well! I’m a zombie the subsequent day if I keep up previous midnight.
However, within the spirit of accepting this aspect of myself, I do know there are advantages to being over 50, and it is not AARP:
We are usually happier and have a extra joie de vivre mentality.
We are inclined to concentrate on our inside selves and might shortly step out of a spot of compassion and switch to others with kindness.
We can discover pleasure in all the easy issues.
We have infinite knowledge.
Age comes with a plethora of life experiences that make us a supply of data and perception.
I do not cover or lie about my age, however I do not shout it from the rooftops both. So why do I really feel uncomfortable when individuals know my precise age? I requested myself this query and realized it was for superficial causes. None of them have any foundation within the actuality of my life. So I made a decision to do one thing radical (at the least for me) on my precise date of start.
While on trip, we spent my birthday morning on the seaside, and I made a decision to have fun by carrying a two-piece bathing swimsuit. My inside critic advised me:individuals my age do not put on two items, particularly in leopard print!” I advised my inside critic to blow, “I am a woman; hear me roar!”
I used to be nervous, however met myself the place I used to be on the time and mentioned to myself: “You’re going to rock this bathing suit, even if it’s just my opinion!” As I acquired dressed, I checked out myself within the mirror and thanked my physique for supporting me all these years. I felt the acceptance of myself, the place I’m and who I’m in my life, however I additionally noticed a radiance shining by way of.
As I walked on the seaside in my two-piece bathing swimsuit, I noticed different individuals exude a heat glow, and a few had eyes that sparkled with their inside mild. I smiled, realizing that possibly they have been experiencing an inside acceptance identical to me.
Regardless of how you are feeling about ageing, I’ll go away you with this quote. It could also be another person’s phrases, but it surely’s an invite so that you can develop outdated with me and simply be true to who you might be!
“The most necessary factor I can let you know about getting older is that this: if you happen to actually really feel such as you need an off-the-shoulder shirt and a few massive beads and flip flops and a dirndl skirt and a magnolia in your hair, do it than .
Even if you happen to’re wrinkled.”
― Maya Angelo
Be healthy, be radiant and be fabulous YOU!